Could you be a part of a marriage in which you aren't the only wife? Would you be ok with sharing your husband with 3 other women? Can you handle taking turns with them every night on who gets to sleep with him? Would you feel ok raising your kids along with the other kids your husband has with his other 3 wives? Is being a sister wive something you could handle?
I never really thought about polygamy then HBO brought out BIG LOVE. In that show the husband comes from a Mormon polygamist family. Him and his first wife have a monogamous relationship till she gets sick and they have a girl from the husbands former polygamist compound come help them. She then becomes the second wife and later a young babysitter they employee becomes the third. They lived in 3 separate homes all next to each other with the backyards being connected. I actually really liked this show.
Now TLC has the reality show Sister Wives. These are real women who are all in a marriage relationship with one man. Only the first wife is legally married to him. They all have children by this one man. They are a modern day polygamist family. They aren't the compound kind of polygamist which is the ones who have a bad name for child abuse and other things.
I've been watching this show since day one. I like it. I know this is not a lifestyle I could ever have. But I like the show. I find it interesting that they all function so well in that lifestyle and work together on everything. There is a little bit of jealousy but not too much to really affect their relationships.
Personally I'm a one man kinda gal as most of us are. The thought of having to share my "til death due us part" man with any other woman is creepy and disgusting. I'm not saying they are disgusting but I couldn't handle it because the thought of sharing this man sexually with other women would just bug the crap out of me and I would feel disgusted by it. It would be creepy to me because having to share him just seems like a strange concept for me to handle. The man is mine and only mine and his death will quickly part us if I ever caught him cheating. I'm just a little jealous I know.. LoL. But seriously it must take insane amounts of confidence and trust to be in a polygamist relationship. Even my husband says he couldn't handle having so many wives. I think it must be because I alone drive him to insanity. Now imagine 3 more chicks to add to that. Poor guy would have a mental break down. I see it's pros. It's nice to have other women around to talk to and raise your children with and who also are there to help you day to day. I also view the cons. This is a very rare lifestyle. Most of these relationships that exist are kept on the low low. For legal reasons being one of them since having multiple wives is against the law. But how do you explain to your children that when they go to school they can't tell people they have other siblings from other mommies and that you all live together. I think that hiding this lifestyle must be hard on a child. I'm all for this if it's what makes you happy, you can afford it and your kids are being raised properly. Which by the looks of it all the kids this family has seem to be good happy kids. Just because it's something most of us could never do personally doesn't mean these people should be treated like they are bad people because they are not. They aren't killing or abusing people they are just trying to live life like most of us.
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