I don't have a court order saying I can't speak my mind. I can rant all I want. I can say the truth and call you anything out of the book I see fit. It's not my fault your life is the way it is. See there seems to be a misunderstanding here. A big one. This is how the story goes. I got a millennium scholarship when I graduated high school for maintaining my B average. I went to Monroe high for a year and a half after that I went to independent study I had my son and stopped going for a whole year. After that I was finally able to go back when I moved to Vegas with my parents. My sons father actually didn't want me to go back even though I wanted too. Im thankful I went and finished. Once I finished we came to a agreement that he would go to school first. I took my entry exams but didn't sign up for classes since we both couldn't go at the same time plus I didn't know what I wanted to study. Around this time is when I got tired of all the bullshit. The controlling attitude and many other things had began to take it's toll. See in this relationship I wasn't able to listen to the kind of music I liked such as rock because it was devil music. I couldn't dress the way I liked because I looked like a little girl. I was once told I would go to hell because of the way I was. He choose his brother over me at a restaurant and made me cry right at the table. I got in trouble once because his fathers brother in law bought me a ice cream. When I did go to school everyday I had to come home and tell him every single person I spoke to and let him check my note book. Privacy didn't exist. He even disliked my bff and would get mad if I saw her. I took this from the time I was 14 till I was 19. The finally straw was the restaurant incident and coming home late one night from work finding my son hiding under the table and his uncle asleep on the couch who was probably drunk and his father knocked out too with the door unlocked. I told him he had to move by the time we moved to my parents new house. Once we moved he moved back to California for a while. Then he moved back to Vegas. I would let him have Bryan when he would ask but it got to the point that every time I would let him take him he would ask me to let him borrow money. The total amount of money he ever borrowed has totaled over $800. He finally ended up moving again to Cali. He's never tried to work out a custody agreement with me. I told him last year that If he could start helping me with money I would give him the same custody schedule my husband has with his kids he agreed but when the time came to start he never called me. So I said enough I've held off for 6 years filing paper work for child support. I filed last November and of course the address I had for him was no good. They can't start anything till he is served. When my daughter stopped breathing for a couple seconds last year I called him and told him he needs to call and see his son more often. He acted like he understood. He did ask me one time after that to take my son but I told him no because we already had plans. Last year my son went to my bff Normas house who is also his aunt and spend 2 weeks with her. He had a blast with her. During the visit was the last time he saw his father. For these past 4 months he has not called my son. My son doesn't have a number to reach him at and neither do I. Last time I did have a number for him i text him to let him know my sons grades and his gf text me back telling me he was asleep I told her ok thanks but i wasnt expecting a response then she text me again about why I was texting him. Um hello i didnt know i was not allowed to in form him of his sons grades. Which this is not the first time she has used his phone to text me. A couple years ago she text me to question me about going to a quinceañera my bff (his sister) was having idk why she had to text me to ask. But whatever. He did make a fb account and message my son but my son rarely checks his fb especially now that he is so busy with school. But fb contact is not the same as a phone call. My husband has 2 kids who live in Texas. It's far and not something he had a say in. Now that they have a good custody agreement worked out he still only gets to see his kids a total of about 60 days depending on the year. 60 days out of the whole year isnt much at all. He misses out on way more then half of their lives. My husband is here everyday and he sees my son and is his friend. My son doesn't call him dad. I would never force that upon my child. The only person who deserves to be called dad is the man who gave him his last name because it's just the way it should be. Maybe if my husband raised my son from the time he was a toddler the story would be different. My husband finally became tired of seeing that my son doesn't even get a phone call from his father. Did I mention he also didn't get a birthday or Xmas gift from his dad last year because his dad had to pay his rent. Lovely excuse isn't it? Well my husband sent my sons father a little fb message yesterday about him not calling my son often and guess who called my cell phone today. Of course he was pissed that my husband called him out on not calling my son more like livid. But really can you blame my husband? 4 months without calling is except able if your deployed, in jail or in a coma. And let me tell you he is neither of the 3. So he tells me he hasn't called because his health is not good. His thyroid is failing. I've been on thyroid med since I was 18. My father has had his removed and my mom takes thyroid meds too. I know about thyroid. So he tells me this is why he has not had 5 minutes in 4 months to call my son. He told me he has been jobless since January. The other day my poor son told my mom his dad probably hasn't called him because he's too busy working. So much for that excuse. He threaten and told me my husband better never tell him anything like that ever again. It got him to call didn't it? Anyways he told me I lived the good life while he was stuck living the shitty life. Hey let's get this straight it's not my fault he decided not to finish going to culinary school then got stuck with the loan. I have no control over his thyroid either. I've never wished him bodily harm. But yet he's yelling and cussing at me. Really? He accused me of keeping my son from him. This is the mom who has told her son and others before if he had a great job, better home and could provide for my son 100 times better then me I would never deny my son that and let him have full custody instead. But of course this is not the case. He also told me that because I had opened the child support against him he didn't want to call and hear a mouth full from me. I told him I couldn't even get the case started because I can't have him served since idk where he lives. Then he started telling my he's never kept that info from me. Ok so why don't I even have a fucking phone number for him? I also told him he could take Bryan as along as he's gonna be in somebodies care and he starts telling me he lives a 2 bedroom apt. Just so Bryan would have space when he goes. This is the first I heard this story. So towards the end of the conversation I told him stop with the fucking excuses enough already your over 30 years old act like it. I told him I've never asked him for shit what if one day I was broke and didn't have money then what? He also yelled at me saying I could ask his sis for his number. I told him I never would because it's not her job to give it to me. I'm tired of this. Excuses, excuses, excuses. Good thing the phone call was dropped. Let's get shit straight this is one of the worst excuses ever for not calling your son in so long. Ever. Hopefully next time he's damaging his body with alcohol he realizes what changes he needs to make to have the relationship he should have with my son and learn to man up. Odds are he won't but you never know.
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